You’re burnt out, overwhelmed, and there seems to never be enough time in the day to get everything done. It feels like you’re living life on FAST-FORWARD with MOM GUILT trialing your heels at your every TURN. You’re exhausted from trying to keep your cool while mothering yet you still end everyday feeling like a “grouchy mom”. UGH
Breathe easy Mamafriend, this is your call to slow down and MAKE ROOM FOR YOU.
Pictured: Some members of Mamas Who Breathe located in North Carolina got together for lunch to celebrate and love on each other in person.
You’re burnt out, overwhelmed, and there seems to not be enough time in the day to get everything done. It feels like you’re living life on FAST-FORWARD. This is your call to slow down and MAKE ROOM FOR YOU.
Mama, when was the last time you did something just for you? Between the endless to-do lists, caring for your little ones, and trying to keep it all together, it’s easy to forget about the most important person—YOU.
It’s easy to think that by neglecting yourself, you’re taking care of everything.
The truth is, it ALL starts with YOU.
It’s so easy to get lost in the noise of the day-to-day world. You long for a break but feel like someone will go neglected if you have one. So, you swallow down your desires and keep pressing on. You don’t have to keep living this way. There’s room for you in your life!!!!
It’s time to finally make Room For You, Mama.
How many of these sound like you?
“I’m going to do something nice for myself.” 6 months go by. You get madder and madder with every passing day because you just don’t have time.
“I don’t have time for anything else. My schedule is crammed as it is”. Also, feeling like you're living life on fast-forward (as I like to call it), never getting a moment to stop and breathe.
You are starting your self-care practice but setting the bar to perfection so you crash out and stop altogether. “Ain't nobody got time for all of that.”
You’re the Miss indecisive queen. “Should I start, maybe next week. Nah, a week after Christmas will be great. I’ll start then. No, maybe 4 months out before my birthday so I can get in shape”.
“Something is wrong with me. I shouldn’t need all the extra support around caring for me. It’s me. I need to get myself together.”
“Nobody appreciates me. I do, and do, and do. Folks just take and take, and I’m sick of it”.
“If I start taking care of myself, my family will be neglected. I’m a good mama, and my babies come first. That’s just that. I will make time for me when they don’t need me anymore.”
“I’m good; I know what to do. I’ve heard all this before. I do breath-work already, I pray and meditate. This seems like it’s for beginners”.
If you’ve said any of these. I’d bet you also have felt like there just wasn’t enough time in the day, or there’s just not ENOUGH ROOM FOR SELF.
Last year, my son bluntly hit me with some words that would forever change my life…
He said: “MAMA, I gotta tell ya... YOU HAVE BEEN MEAN.
You’ve been mean EVERY SINCE PAPA DIED, and the only time you're nice is at school, BUT you HAVE to be nice there!”
You see, I’d just lost my father six months ago, and Nygee, my 7-year-old (at the time), was OVER IT!!
He was over me pretending (because, to be honest, I was terrible at it).
In his lifetime, he had never seen that side of me. My oldest, on the other hand, knew it all too well. Or at least he did until I committed to caring for me as a non-negotiable.
When life applies pressure, we have the opportunity to meet ourselves for the first time all over again.
This is a journey and a practice; NO ONE is exempt from doing the work. The moment you STOP so does your practice!!!!!
HEAL, STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, RECONNECT WITH YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF, BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE IN SAFE SPACE, AND RELEASE THE BELIEFS THAT HAVE HELD YOU BACK FOR YEARS.
I had a client once who was tired of always feeling burnt out and like everyone was always running over her. She felt like her voice was being taken day after day. She used to tell me “I always feel like I have something in my throat” and “I’m always exhausted”.. As her child began growing up and modeling everything she did it dawned on her “One day she might copy this”. Starting to fear her daughter may become a people pleaser she started with HERSELF. It’s been 3 years and her daughter is now the president of her 5th grade class, lol. We crack up about this often because not only is her daughter NOT a people pleaser, she supports her teacher in self regulating “Take a deep breath Ms McKenzie remember to breathe”.
Her daughter was also noted in their class book as “Most likely to become a Motivational Speaker” because she’s always asking everyone “How do you know if you don’t try?”.
I’m sharing this because even when you think you’re holding it all together in front of your children… We can't fake it with our children. No matter how old they are, they see us—they see YOU.
Are you a mama that’s tired of feeling so damn guilty, overwhelmed, and living on fast-forward every day?
Do you crave judgment-free connections with mamas on their own journey?
Like-minded REAL AUTHENTIC community?
Room for SELF is all of that. THIS IS ABOUT YOU!! This is not a mom group that gathers to talk about our children all day.
WE center YOUR CARE.
On a hike, one of our beautiful community sisters stopped to declare her MWB mission statement in nature.)
Rediscover Yourself While Mothering
Room For Self by Mamas Who Breathe is your dedicated space to reconnect, heal, and nurture yourself so you can feel empowered and grounded as a mother. Through holistic support and mindful practices, we’ll help you build a fulfilling self-care routine that fits seamlessly into your busy life. Prioritize your well-being without guilt and embrace the balance you deserve
Our year-long virtual circle will support you in reclaiming your self-identity outside of being a mother.
You will learn TRUE self-care practices (not the kind they show on Instagram) that will support you in becoming the woman and mother you’ve always dreamed of being. You’ll master developing self-love in a way you’ve NEVER experienced before. We will change your life from the inside out, in the best way possible.
Personal growth, real authentic community, and intentional healing will allow you to transform and rebirth a new balance in both your home and personal practice. It will give you FULL authority over your life, deepen your connection with God, and you’ll ooze sacred embodiment.
YOU WERE NOT CREATED TO JOURNEY ALONE. MOTHERHOOD IS A TRIBAL EXPERIENCE.
It’s your BIRTHRIGHT to be SEEN, HEARD, AND HELD!!!
Our society has FORGOTTEN the MOTHER.
WE LITERALLY PRODUCE and help RAISE the world, yet our well-being is an afterthought instead of a priority.
NO one is coming to SAVE US!!! We have to take up space. Lock arms with other mamas who are no longer waiting their turn to be happy and fulfilled.
IT’S your TURN NOW.
You’ve likely tried:
Challenge after challenge
6 week crash courses to implement for a while but don’t truly make a change
Mom group that are child center that ADD more to your running list of things to do and undertones of judgment when you acknowledge self-care
Mean mom groups that make you feel guilty for not filling your every waking moment with activities for your baby (Children).
Putting yourself out there but being met with spaces that don’t truly center your needs. You experience a “feel good” session with no actual result in lifestyle…just more of the same sharing space.
Space where the culture of comparing or judging other mom is the standard and means of bonding/connecting.
I see you MAMA. HERE’S HOW WE’RE DIFFERENT!!!!!
I walk you through each phase of my proven healing protocols and give you powerful tools to use every day. Mamas Who Breathe is rooted and grounded in love. YOU are more than enough, just as you are. It’s a safe space where we don’t tolerate unsolicited advice NOR undermining interactions. I’ve spent the last 10 years watching which of my clients “clients excel at every turn and why.” I'm going to share with you the common thread:
They are ready to change, and NOTHING STANDS IN THEIR WAY.
They ask the questions they need to get inside my offers and never stay quiet when they have questions as we journey.
They SHOW UP. If they can’t make it LIVE, they watch the replays but are actively getting the transformation.
They stay open even when they’re uncomfortable.
They remain students, even when they’ve experienced a tool or exercise.
They understand the power of experiencing things NOW as they are.
I don’t know if you noticed, but they have DECIDED!!! They make a NON-NEGOTIABLE before the journey even starts that NOTHING will get in their way THIS TIME. Then, they allow me to support them in that commitment to SELF!!
BUT IT STARTS WITH SELF!!!
“IT’S A SELF-TO SELF PRACTICE, AND WE’RE DOING IT SIDE BY SIDE.”
When you do this for yourself, you become the role model you stress yourself out to be. The best-kept secret is YOU HAVE TO BE IT if you want them to. Children do what we DO, not what we say.
Mamas Who Breathe presents
Room for SELF
Room for Self is an intimate, year-long virtual circle created to support mothers who are tired of rolling themselves to the backburner because they always have way too much on their plate, or at least, it feels that way
It’s time to heal and grow holistically and take up space PERMANENTLY. Because, when you create room for self, everything else in your life is instantly better as a result.
Working with Vella has transformed my life.
I have discovered my path to owning my space, living with the flow of life, and trusting myself through the sacred space we share each week. She has been such a wonderful facilitator for my self exploration and is gifted in her abilities to help me go layers deeper. The immense growth that has taken place in my life since beginning to work with Vella has been invaluable.
-Nadine J.
Where to start..... my best friend told me About this lady that was very great at what she did with being a life coach and just putting the life back into people. I recently lost my husband and was going through a lot of different emotions and dealing with a lot of negativity from people. I wasn’t able to mourn my husband properly and I had bottled up a lot of emotions my very first conversation with her I was breaking down crying and apologizing when she Said to me no don’t apologize you have the right to cry and let it out.
To often we feel as though we should hide our feelings when it is a natural thing, so I let it out and she listened and said all the right things. At first I was skeptic of opening up to somebody I didn’t know, I immediately Felt comfortable with her though I could just feel her genuine spirit!!
-Ashley B.
I had the pleasure to be connected to someone who is amazing, wonderful and caring. That person is Mrs. Vella Ellerbe . I met Vella about three years ago through a Facebook page she created called The Moms Lab. There I was in a place of darkness, brokenness, unsure of my life and overwhelm with all the responsibilities I had taken on including motherhood.
Then one day my mother asked a simple question: Why are you overwhelmed??( simple? Right?) then I realize that question was the biggest question of my entire life and I didn’t know the answer . I didn’t know where to begin and I definitely didn’t know how to end this cycle . I sat with this question for weeks then I saw a Vella live video that she would do free discovery call and I signed up. Honestly that was the hardest part... making the decision to FIND me...I NEEDED me ...I WANTED me for the first time in many years I answered the call to show up for myself. I did the one month clarifying cleaning and even then I still had my reservation about the process but I knew I needed better so I continue the journey.
For the entire month of April Vella and I dig deep and there was many heavy but uplifting moments that I had to release, relearn and rejoice. I can attest to when YOU show up and do the WORK this program does work. Like Vella said “ you don’t just want learn a thing but Live it too” . Her helpfully tools help me and I will continue to use those helpful information for the rest of my life. This cleanse show me who I was ( past) who I am ( present) and who I can be ( the future). So I leave my testimony as a challenge to other women who are at the stage of life who are lost, who are overwhelmed, who simply don’t know to ask yourself this one questions. Who/what is stopping you??? Here a hint sis...it’s YOU. Show up for yourself and I promise you will come out on the other side . Let’s do the WORK...together
-Eurica B.
What’s Included
Room For Self Core Curriculum
Valued at $997
Monthly Themes and Practices
Valued at $297
Bi-Weekly Coaching Calls with the Mamas Who Breathe team
Valued at $297
Community of other Mamas growing through the journey with you
Priceless
During our journey together, we will explore:
Bonus courses
The Intentional Day Bundle
This beautiful stand-alone course creates the structure for the entire family. It makes the rising routine flow and the power down hour (night routine) one for smiles and memories.
The Foundational Practice
This course brings you back in touch with the baseline of holistic living.
The Adornment Portal
As promised in this bonus mini-course,
I will share all my topical beauty care secrets with you. I love connecting mindfulness practices that also enhance our beauty while maximizing out time and efforts
The Holistic Mama
Learn how to make cold and flu herbal medicine for your family. Learning to make your own medicine puts your autonomy BACK in your hands. Being able to BOOST your family’s immune system through all the germs and cooties is a game changer.
ACCESS TO OUR 2025 MWB ANNUAL RETREAT
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ACCESS TO OUR 2025 MWB ANNUAL RETREAT 〰️
STEP OVER INTO AUTHENTIC COMMUNITY!!!
“It’s a SELF- to- SELF Practice and we do it SIDE-by-SIDE”
The Mamas Who Breathe Community and offerings are rooted in LOVE. We hold safe space for our members to be seen, heard and held. Here at MWB we understand and practice community as medicine. We create sacred space by keeping the well being of ALL our members as the priority ALWAYS. Old community wounds can make it extremely difficult to trust “NEW” spaces. This is why this container was created with the reserved and freshly discerning Mamas in mind. We welcome your reservation with open arms. This space is trauma informed and ready to serve you.
Linking arms with other Mamas who are on the same path as you is beautiful. Being surrounded by others who are like-minded and ready to make room for themselves is powerful. In fact, studies have shown people who are apart of community live longer, live happier lives, and have a higher sense of overall well-being.
What to Expect
Room for Self is an intimate, year-long virtual circle created to support mothers who are tired of rolling themselves to the backburner every time they have a lot on their plates. It’s time to heal and grow holistically and take up space PERMANENTLY.
Onboarding call with Vella
Three LIVE community calls a month led by Vella
Monthly content and teaching by Vella are released directly to your client portal
Monthly themed community conversations
Printable guides and exercise
All updates and added materials that download to Vella as you journey.
Early bird access to Vella’s next offering, Love Care Apothecary: an herbal offering for you and your family.
ACCESS TO OUR 2025 MWB ANNUAL RETREAT
Room for SELF is right for you if you are a:
Mama who feels like they’re constantly running on empty and are longing for practice that actually fuels you.
Mama who loves her family dearly but sometimes feel like you’re losing themselves in the process.
New and seasoned mamas who want to carve out time for themselves without the guilt.
Mama who believes in the power of mindfulness, self-care, and holistic wellness and healing to create a more balanced life.
Do I have to be a mother? No. All women “mother”. This is about mothering YOU.
Room for Self is NOT for you if:
If you are looking for a quick fix without being ready to invest in their well-being. This is a “SELF- TO- SELF” practice. I will give you all the resources and tools you need to CHANGE your life but I can not do it for you. Come open to receive the transformation you’re looking for.
If you aren’t ready to put yourself on the priority list. I have created so many resources that will allow you to get the most out of your experience but you have to be willing NOT to play about YOU. You have to show up for YOU
If you prefer to stay stuck and in a victim mindset.
You give unsolicited advice and refuse to respect the given guideline of our safe space and community. This is a safe space PERIOD.
Room for Self will teach you…
The importance of getting clear on your truest desires
We can’t drive to the destination with no directions. We MUST get clear.
How to set boundaries
Honoring your yes and no.
Deepen your relationship with God and nature
We are a part of nature. When we lose sight of that we disconnect from the beautiful relationship we get to have with the creator and the creation.
Create personal support systems
Our village is right around you. We will discover true community building, receiving and connection.
How to make the mundane magical
Laundry, doing your children’s hair, washing dishes, etc. The things that have to be done. Let’s make the sacred practice that brings joy to the entire family.
How to heal the mother and sisterhood wound
We turn our attention to the deep wound of belonging and use it to transmute the healing of showing UP.
How to reconnect with your authentic self
The rawest version of you is where your freedom lies. The world will harden you. Becoming a mother can make you lose sight of who you truly are. We get so lost in “being perfect” that we forget to “be”. We support you in making the journey back to you.
Holistic Transformational Self-care Tools
Everyday particle tools to regulate your nervous system, ground down into the moment, and be present.
If you’re drawn to me, it’s because I have the tools to help you unlock that inner healing. It’s the God in me that you’re connecting with, and it means you’re ready to heal. Otherwise, you wouldn’t still be here, reading this. We all have our God-given purpose and talents. Mine is supporting mothers in healing and thriving holistically. The beautiful thing about walking in your purpose is that it helps others step into theirs. I’ve seen so many of my clients go through my offerings and then start living their dreams—landing their dream job, going on those long-awaited vacations, getting married, having babies. The list goes on and on. It’s not because I’m magic (even though I am, and so are you), but because saying YES to YOU/SELF is powerful!
When we prioritize our care as mothers, it empowers us to serve our families better, show up in our communities, and thrive in all of our roles— but most importantly, we MAKE ROOM FOR SELF.
Meet Your Coach
Hey there Mamafriend, I’m Vella Ellerbe your Holistic Wellness Practitioner, Mastery Coach, and recently, coined the Postpartum Midwife—for 10 years now I’ve supported mothers to rebirth themselves through early postpartum and stay connected to SELF through motherhood. Motherhood is a tricky terrain. If we allow it, it will swallow us, leaving us with no self identity and clueless to purpose once our littles start gaining their independence. After I experienced postpartum depression from the lack of knowing how to properly care for myself beyond my topical self-care (hair,nails, pedicures). I surrendered myself over to God begging he “fixed” me. You know what happened?
PEOPLE started showing up step by step !!!! It was then I knew for sure God worked through people. I set out to be one of those people. From that day to this one I’ve kept my stake in the ground for MOTHERS!!!!
I absolutely love what I do, and the people who allow me to serve them get RESULTS!!!
I hope to see you on the inside.
Don’t play about you, Mama
FAQ
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Our Mamas Who Breathe presents Room for Self offering is a 12 month commitment because it considers all of you holistically. As moms, we don’t have time for a lot at once; we are already super busy. Being so, I have crafted this offering into bit-sized themed months that will take us deep with less time requirements. This is not a six-week intensive crash course that you’ll never use again once it’s over. This is a well-thought-out and proven process that transforms your LIFE WITH EASE.
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No. All women “MOTHER”. This is about mothering YOU. We serve woman who haven’t given physical birth all the time. Because as women we give birth in more than one way(I’m getting excited here, I’ll save that for inside the offering hehe)
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Yes.
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All calls will be recorded and saved in for member portal. You will be able to watch the replay whenever you please.
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Yes. Scholarship are limited. Please book a call with Vella immediately to discuss more details. Reach to us at vella@mamaswhobreathe.com
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Thank you for your love and support. The mothers are the human shapers of this world, thank you for supporting us in pouring into the world. Reach out to us at vella@mamaswhobreathe.com